BY Lux Alptraum
July 26, 2007
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Boinkology wants, very much, to be all live and let live (hey, we even agreed with Wendy Shalit!). Boinkology wants to let people have their opinions so long as they respect ours. Boinkology wants that, but then Boinkology happens to surf over to I Blame The Patriarchy and read a diatribe on why increasing rates of hetero anal action serves as iron clad proof that men hate women (really, that’s the argument).

Don’t follow? Here’s a quote to help you out:

Since the excessively vaunted sexual revolution decreed that all women henceforth would be empowerfulized by their service to male sexuality — getting fucked in your wig is a big compliment! — too many women have been giving up the vagina too easily, and even blow jobs are hackneyed now that housewives are writing mundane marriage manuals on the subject. “Regular” het sex just isn’t brutal or insulting enough anymore. There’s no sport in it, no swaggering triumph, nothing to give men “a good story to tell over beers.” Anal sex may be “the new deal-breaker,” but it’s only a matter of time until blush is off that rose, too. If a ’sex’ act fails to egregiously humiliate or even harm a woman, men will keep pushing the limits until they find one that does.

Okay. We’re going to take this one real slow.

Anal sex is not a fundamentally painful or humiliating act: usually, pain or humiliation is a sign that anal sex (like, um, any sex) is not being performed correctly. When performed correctly, anal sex can (note that we said can: some people will never like anal sex, and that’s A-OK) be an extremely pleasurable experience… for both men and women.

Perhaps the rise in anal sex isn’t an indication of men seeking to further humiliate women: perhaps its more about the increasing availability of information about how to have pleasurable anal sex.

See also: hetero anal sex doesn’t have to be exclusively about the lady’s ass. Men have asses too — asses that can be penetrated just as easily, and pleasurably, as women’s asses. Boinkology has to wonder where bend-over-boyfriend action (or should we say pegging?) falls on the scale of feminist sex acts. Is it more feminist for a woman to be doing her male partner up the ass, or is just a sign of the oppressed mimicking the acts of the oppressor?

We’d think more heavily about this, but the truth is we’d rather focus more on helping people all around the world get the sex they want: vaginal, anal, oral, or otherwise.

[Image from The Daily Probe]