An intense session of porn watching led to a debate within Boinkology HQ (or at least within the mind of one staff member). Which is better, we wondered: gay sex or straight sex?
On the one hand, heterosexual couples have the benefit of bodies that are designed to fit together: a penis gets hard, the vagina lubricates, and — voila! — a baby is made. Or orgasms. Or something.
On the other hand, same-sex couples, with their same-sex anatomy, are able to empathize with and better understand a partner’s pleasure. I have a penis, you have a penis: clearly, I’m better able to understand what gets you off than someone with a vagina.
To complicate matters, a staff member — one who’d actually engaged in both hetero and homosexual acts — suggested that the whole thing might not be so cut and dry. After all, there’s good straight sex and bad straight sex, and good and bad gay sex; and really, doesn’t it all come down to what you’re in the mood for anyway?
What do you think? Is there an answer? Let us know: for now, the debate rages on.
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Sounds to me that straight sex wins easily.
Ps ~ I’m not the staffer who did the gay sex
October 25th, 2007 at 1:04 pmThe world will have to just wonder which one of us it could be.
October 25th, 2007 at 1:30 pmBut straight people don’t just have penis/vagina sex. so…
apples and oranges
October 25th, 2007 at 2:03 pmANDY: what are better? Apples or oranges?
October 25th, 2007 at 3:08 pmAndy,
That was also a point I made! But it didn’t end up making it into the post.
October 25th, 2007 at 4:56 pmI don’t buy the mutual understanding argument–I mean, if things worked that way, Lux and I would never fight. *rimshot* Really, just because I have a vagina, do I automatically know how another random woman likes her vagina touched? Or not touched? We are all special snowflakes.
October 25th, 2007 at 6:30 pmI submit that, as posed, the very question is meaningless. The use of the word ‘better’ requires a context before any sort of useful answer is possible; minimally this context must include some kind of value system - objective or subjective - upon which to compare the alternatives. Furthermore, as your second staff member notes, that context may also require clarification as to the circumstances of the alternatives being compared. If we narrow “better” in this context down to “would be more pleasurable and/or satisfying”, I think it’s pretty safe to conclude that any such measurement has an awful lot of independent variables.
That said, in terms of large scale generalizations, the real question stands: Is there a significant statistical difference between the reported pleaure and/or satisfaction level of participants in homosexual and heterosexual encounters under equal circumstances?
Finding a method of identifying the other relevant independent variables and ensuring they are equal when performing such an experiment is left as an exercise to the reader.
October 25th, 2007 at 7:29 pmThis is soooo begging for a scientific/sociological experiment involving tons of data-gathering. Sigh. Would I had the time.
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