Crazy Blind Date: Crazy bad idea? Or just crazy enough to work? Boinkology operatives have infiltrated the system, and we’ll be reporting back with our findings.
During my first blind date, I asked my partner in craziness why he’d chosen to sign up for this service.
Why would someone submit themselves to the whims of a computer, potentially setting themselves up for disaster (or at least a really boring evening)? Why agree to give up control, to leave things to chance?
“Personals make people too picky,” he responded, offering that sites like OkCupid seemed more designed to keep you online and in front of the computer, rather than out in the world meeting your sitemates. By eliminating the decision making process, you did away with the seemingly endless hemming and hawing over who was dateworthy. By giving in to randomness, you cut to the chase and got right to the important part.
And sure, you might end up hating your blind date — but you might end up hating the person you’d spent weeks emailing before actually meeting, too. At least this way you weren’t burdened with expectation.
My second date (which was, this time, with an actually random person) seemed to be the perfect testing ground for this theory. Had I gone through the standard personals procedure, it’s unlikely that I would have ended up in a bagel place with this particular stranger. How would we fare, I wondered? Would I be pleasantly surprised by the computer’s choice — or newly convinced that I am, indeed, smarter than a machine?
Unfortunately, romance was not in the stars this time. But there was an up side: in being randomly exposed to someone I wouldn’t ordinarily have gone out with, I learned a great deal about what I do and don’t consider important in a potential partner. At the price of a bagel and a half hour of decent conversation, that was a valuable lesson acquired cheap.
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Is this for people who have grown tired of the online dating scene, but cannot come up with alternatives to finding love online?
What kind of person is attracted to the crazy blind date site?
November 12th, 2007 at 9:41 pmClarence,
That’s what we’re trying to find out.
November 12th, 2007 at 10:31 pmummm… people like me who are LAZY & can’t pick the right people to date.
& quite frankly, I really can’t be bothered with all the back & forth getting to know you bullshit that comes with Match.com & such.
I rather blame an algorithim for a bad date than myself or some well meaning, but tragically misguided friend.
I’ve signed up for some dates but haven’t gotten any. I think it’s because a)not that many peopole signed up in my geo-area or b) my contraints are too specific(?).
I will check back with you when I get a date, if you want.
November 13th, 2007 at 6:12 pmLola,
Please do! We’d love to hear more CBD experiences!
November 13th, 2007 at 9:02 pmDUDE!
SO I get a potential date for next monday. I go to check it out.
Berkeley (UC) guy: Ummm… Lived in the E.Bay all my life so I know the type. OK, there will be “interesting” conversation.
Redhead w/full beard & wears purple pants (this is how he described himself): I have a serious clown phobia but even this I will overcome in the name of research.
Be OK w/Polymory & you must want children. Non-Negotiable (AGAIN his wording): What the fuckity-fuck? We haven’t even gone out yet & I already have to put up with other women?
This is the reason I signed up with CBD in the first place. (me: throwing my hand up to heaven to find some reason as to why I can’t even get a blind date!)
Do you want me to keep trying? ‘Cause if my humiliation can at least keep others entertained then it’s not completely pointless.
November 14th, 2007 at 6:00 pmLola–please keep trying so that I, as a Baltimoron, can live vicariously through you.
L
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