As Valentine’s Day rapidly approaches, we’re finding ourselves bombarded with nonstop messages about romance — which we’re pretty sure is supposed to be a code word for sex. But the more we think about it, the more we have to wonder: is sex really all that romantic?
Think about it for a second. Romance is hearts and flowers and fancy dinners and chocolates; sex is penises and vaginas and butt holes and sweaty bodies grinding against each other. Where, exactly, is the overlap between the two?
If we had to guess, we’d say it has something to do with that whole “love” thing — you know, the feeling that hearts and flowers and fancy dinners tend to lead to, which often results in improved bumping and grinding. But saying that romance has a chance of generating feelings that make sex better isn’t really the same as saying sex is romantic. Is it?
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For me, sex has always had a part in romance, even the fun and rough stuff. Intimacy is romantic. Sexual intimacy is romantic too. Isn’t it?
January 28th, 2008 at 10:22 amSex is biology. Romance is being nice up until chemicals come in to play. Chemicals being the feelings we get from being romantic, and the chemicals released during sex. Love is just biological reactions to one another. What we find romantic is sociological.
January 28th, 2008 at 1:08 pmI think that this is a fantastic question, but I don’t think it’s easy to separate sex from romance from love. That’s just too neat and clean, and well, relationships and sex and love and romance - they’re not. It’s so much more complex. One doesn’t necessarily lead to the other nor the converse….
February 4th, 2008 at 11:23 pm[...] de ser universal. Pensando al respecto me encontré un artículo de Boinkology que se pregunta: ¿qué tiene de romántico el sexo? Las actividades románticas se asocian con velas, comida rica y flores pero, el sexo? No, a mí no [...]
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