Boinkology TV: Role Playing
Role playing: a sexy way to spice up your love life, or a bunch of nerds bringing games into the bedroom? Sure, we’ve got our opinions — but don’t let that get in the way of having a sexy, nerdy, role playing good time.
Want to read more about roleplaying? Try:
- Ask Men: Rolepaying During Sex
- Sexuality.about.com: How to Explore Fantasy Sexual Role Play
- Cosmopolitan: I don’t know how to role-play
- Role Playing Fantasies: Your one-stop shop for role play costumes, fantasies, and so much more.
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February 6th, 2008 at 9:48 amI agree, aside from a sexy costume or 2, roleplaying rigid scripts tend to be a little bit, well, restrictive and unreal. Too mental if you will.
At least when its forced past foreplay where it truly belongs.
As a former pen&paper roleplayer the only time ive ever mixed both worlds was thinking about odd dice rolling maths and remembering certain complex laws or spells when trying to fight back lvl 54 final stage treasure guarding PremEjac Monster.
February 6th, 2008 at 1:20 pmThe only kind of roleplaying I’ve enjoyed is when my girl plays the boi. Even then, it’s nothing elaborate or scripted, she’s just a boi with a strap-on.
It gives us both different perspectives/roles, but it’s all organic. I think the most we’ve talked about it ahead of time was “You should be a twink hustler!” or some other vague description. Anything more elaborate is just distracting.
February 6th, 2008 at 4:42 pmGirls with strap-ons (or bois, if you prefer) are like, hottest thign ever.
In my mind, at least.
February 6th, 2008 at 5:41 pmHmmm…I LOVE the roleplaying but here’s the thing…I hear a lot of people saying they’re not into it because they don’t want to pretend to be someone else, that that seems stupid…and it is. But in my (albeit limited) experience roleplaying works not when you try to pretend to be someone else but when you and your partner are yourselves in a different, made-up scenario.
Scenarios that promote some form of power-exchange aren’t that different than strap-on play…it’s taking something that’s not actually real (i.e., the woman having a dick), creating an environment where it is real, and seeing how that change enhances/changes/explores sexual interaction.
A good teacher/professor or doctor/patient scenario has the same effect. So does the more straightforward slave/master dynamic. Or, you know, Catwoman and captured Robin, who needs to be interrogated by her for Batman’s true identity. Whichever.
The point is you don’t have to be anyone but yourself (or effect a Swedish accent), you just have to accept a make-believe dynamic (just like you accept the physicality of a strap-on) and see where it takes you and your partner. It’s a change in structure that can help you learn something about yourself and your partner.
It’s really no different than strap-on play in that sense, as for me — when I fantasize about strapping — it’s not just the physical pleasure of having a woman use one on me, it’s also the mental aspect of the trust and risk that goes with it.
What roleplaying should *not* be is something to *spice* up an otherwise boring/defunct sex life. Roleplaying should be a result of trust and communication; it shouldn’t be a last-dicth effort to create sparks. Then it is about the props, and the costume, and the fake accent, and not what you’re exploring together as partners.
Anyway, apologies for the ramble. My two cents.
February 8th, 2008 at 4:47 amRamble on, Xorn! You’ve almost convinced me to try roleplaying!
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