In this video, Julia Allison tells the New York Times that all of the relationships she’s had in the past year have been ruined by her web presence. We think there’s far more to the story than that. After all, her web presence is what got her to where she is today — and the paper of record has now knighted her the modern day Carrie Bradshaw.
The difficult truth is that dating Jakob Lodwick probably wouldn’t have worked out in the long run — the Internet just made their testy relationship implode a little quicker. When you’re in your mid-twenties in New York City, relationships just don’t tend to work out — no matter how Internet famous you or your partner are. Maybe Julia didn’t find a steady boyfriend, but she’s been left with a television development deal. Most people are left with whatever food their partner left over in their fridge.
It’s clear that her real boyfriend is her work. Maybe she’s finally found her man (though we suspect he was really there all along).
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there is a real life carrie bradshaw already. isn’t her name carrie bradshaw?
March 30th, 2008 at 2:08 pma) The gray suede boots are smokin’.
b) Having a fake Warhol quadrant of yourself on your bedroom wall…is…uh, telling and not necessarily in a good way.
c) There is no “c” but I can I just say…she’s damn cute! And has exceptionally well developed calves.
d) How can she be the “real life Carrie Bradshaw” when Carrie is already based on a real person…Candace Bushnell?
e) Not to dicker on semantics, but in the video she doesn’t actually say her web presence screwed up her relationships (which has a ring of third-party blame, as in “it” destroyed the relationship, not her) but rather she in fact honestly admits that *she* “screwed up her relationship and tested friendships through her web presence, which is a somewhat different thing. It actually sounds like she is taking a responsibility in a semi-healthy way, although really who am I to judge what’’s healthy.
f) mmm…gray boots
g) So I think, in a way, the post is a bit unfair to Julia, and smacks ever so slightly of resentment. But then I’m probably just saying that because I’m suck-up who wants to bolster my fantasies of fu-, uh, dating her.
March 30th, 2008 at 4:26 pmh) her dog looks disturbingly like Richard
March 30th, 2008 at 4:37 pmISIL: I may be painfully white and a little shaggy but I don’t really resemble Marshmallow at all. And further more I think Marshmallow would be more offended that you said I looked like her.
March 31st, 2008 at 1:48 amI’m a little surprised by the naivete that many people in their 20’s and early 30’s are displaying about the internet and it’s impact on their lives. The internet is essentially, the great outdoors. But unlike streaking where only a few people will see you, your escapades are preserved like flies in amber.
This is a woman from a RICH suburb of chicago (wilmette is where many of our local athletes call home) who attended a prestigious university and has worked extensively in media. And yet she didn’t realize who blogging her love life might be detrimental? I just don’t buy that.
As for being Carrie Bradshaw, that show always struck me as more about the fashion and illusion of the perfection of New York night life. Like the sidewalks for “Breakfast At Tiffanys” it was all meant to be a wonderful visual feast, but startlingly light on substantive fare.
The character of Carrie was especially empty, a vessel of platform shoes that viewers were meant to pour themselves into. Like the characters on Seinfeld, who were revealed as cads and monsters in the finale, Carrie was little more than a social climber who did as much damage as she ever suffered, if not more so.
So maybe she is the next Carrie Bradshaw. Mores the pity for her then.
March 31st, 2008 at 2:39 amGARRETT:
1. She’s a smart girl, she knows what she’s doing and she knows what she’s getting into. She never ran away and hid from Gawker slamming her left and right, she embraced it and owed it for a reason. Also, she knew what she was getting into with the relationship blog it just simply didn’t work out.
2. I don’t think she really extensively worked in media until the past two years, which have been crazy busy for her with being a TV show talking head, moving from AMNY to Time Out, searching for a TV deal, etc. I think she knows that all the hard work of being slammed and being this public punching bag has gotten her into a situation where she has a chance to make something of it, thus she can now back off and become a little more private because in some ways she’s made it.
3. Her life is a lot of illusion that she creates herself, which in a way is amazing but must make it really difficult for her to remember who she is and what she’s doing, not Julia Allison but herself.
4. She’s smart and I think she’s kind of thought of “Julia Allison” as more of a character than an actual person. JA is just the public face and it seems she’s now trying to work on who her private person is.
Either way, I could be really off on this but I know her personally and have been following just about everything she’s been doing. I wish her the best in both her personal and professional life.
March 31st, 2008 at 9:21 am5. She´s lovely pets.
March 31st, 2008 at 10:13 am4. She’s smart and I think she’s kind of thought of “Julia Allison” as more of a character than an actual person. JA is just the public face and it seems she’s now trying to work on who her private person is.
By appearing in a mine-doc on the internet about how she’s no longer as public about herself? There’s something of a paradox in that.
She’s obviously successful and I would assume somewhat happy with the way things are and that’s grand for her.
But I think in creating these illusory versions of ourselves online we lose sight of who we are. In fact, that seemed to be the crux of her dilemma, where does she end and where does the online version begin.
The truth is, there is no distinction. You own your words, your posts, your pictures. For good or bad, you are the person you present. Whether that’s as harmless as the 22 year old claiming a bit more party time than he has ever really had or the father of two who writes verbal abuse to Hannah Montana on message boards, you are yourself in total.
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March 31st, 2008 at 9:51 pmGARRETT said: “The truth is, there is no distinction. You own your words, your posts, your pictures. For good or bad, you are the person you present.”
That should be engraved on every laptop as it comes off the asembly line. the Internet and the world would be better places. Very well said.
March 31st, 2008 at 10:33 pmXORN SMITH: “That should be engraved on every laptop as it comes off the asembly line. the Internet and the world would be better places. Very well said.”
I nominate you for commenter of the week for that one…
March 31st, 2008 at 10:56 pmdoes anyone knows if there is any other information about this subject in other languages?
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