April 4, 2008
Do We Need More Sex Writers?

So Princeton launched a brand new sex column, which has Gawker slagging on sex writers, which has us, yes, feeling a tad and tiny bit defensive.

The issue here, as far as I’m concerned, is not so much how many sex writers there are, but what kind of discourse we’re conducting about sex. The truth is, there’s only room for so many Carrie Bradshaws (ideally, none, or close to it): but Carrie Bradshaw is not the be-all, end-all, of sex writing.

To assume that writing about sex means writing about our own relationships, or writing solely about relationships, period, is to see sex as a limited, boring, sad little topic. That’s not the case, as far as I’m concerned: far from it. Sex is a vast, diverse, fascinating topic; an expansive area that’s ripe for exploration, discussion, and commentary (insightful and otherwise). The problem isn’t that we have too many sex writers; it’s that we have too limited an idea of what sex writing is.

Sex is everywhere, sex permeates everything. Sex shapes our movies, our music, our sports, our literature; sex drives our science and frames our political agendas. Sex is a huge part of our lives — and if we could just own up to that, and respect that, well, we could start having discussions about sex that are anything but tired, boring, or played out.

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  • jen says :

    well said! i think that sex writers/columns/etc should be as varied as sex itself is. there’s definitely enough roof for everyone to get along without stepping on toes.

  • al oof says :

    i didn’t even realize that that relationship stuff was considered ‘sex writing’. it’s just relationship writing that includes the sex part, since sex is part of relationships.

    i don’t see why we need more political writers than sex writers. we probably need less.

  • Isil says :

    Writers and columns ussualy either reflect society or try to conciuously change it.

    When it comes to sex writing, for what ive seen, its sadly the first option. Except boinkology lovely titties (of all involved members)

  • Irene Kaoru says :

    God, I hate Gawker. More coherent comments forthcoming. Ugh. UGH.

  • IRENE KAORU » Blog … says :

    [...] Lux just brought to my attention a post on Gawker that made me want to vomit a little. It’s about how we have enough sex writers/loggers and that, since sex bloggers have totally accomplished the goal of making everyone on Earth comfortable with talking about sex, they should all shut up and go home. The transparent implication/simplification is that 1) most sex bloggers are women and 2) said women should leave the writin’ to the mens who have something more important to say. [...]

  • Sasha says :

    Aside from the sexist “article” cum post at Gawker, this does bring up something that I have been struggling with trying to come up with content on my own blog and can I add anything interesting or unique to the world of sex/relationship/love blogs? For example, I struggle with the fact that my blog can be construed as het normative (well, and that’s because that’s my experience)….but this does not mean there aren’t alot of equally if not more important subjects/issues/perspectives that should also be considered. Sigh. Food for thought at the moment.

  • Sasha says :

    Oops…sorry meant written about not considered!

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