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• al says :

  the thing that bothers me about this article, that makes it complete fluff, is it is about -famous- people. non-famous musicians have an easier time in some ways (they can ‘take time out of their carreers without someone ‘taking their place’ and it’s more difficult, since most non-famous musicians don’t bring in a whole lot of money to a family.

  but i think the assumption of this article is that an ltr and children are linked somehow. and because women are considered the caregivers, it’s the same old career vs. family discussion they have for all women. but there are vast oceans of difference between maintaining a long term relationship and raising children.

  also, i think it’s -assumed- that male musicians are “not planning on having a family or a lifelong permanent relationship”, so it isn’t pointed out to them, and, of course, they are not assumed to be missing out on anything the way women are, since we are supposed to all -need- those things.

  there’s also the interesting idea that it isn’t that women would be tempted to cheat, or that they might not want to be with the guy at home anymore. the article seemed to focus on the idea that their partner (who is also assumed male!) is going to leave -them- because they can’t deal with their jealousy.

  but anyway, i feel like i’ve seen discussions like this for men. because most discussion about musicians is about men. it is really hard on relationships, not necessarily because of ‘temptations’ but because of missing your loved one. but then this is another thing i’m not quite qualified to talk about, since my partner and I are in the same band. but i see the strain of missing folks on our other bandmates. it can be rough.

  but there are lots of strategies for maintaining relationships on the road. and sometimes it is as simple as owning your jealousy. sometimes it’s as easy as acknowledging monogamy is only one way of having a relationship.

  May 1st, 2008 at 2:18 pm

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