SUBMITTED BY WITHOUTSCENE: I strongly believe loving your body is connected to loving your body—that body liberation is closely connected to sexual liberation.
The work of Betty Dodson provides good examples of how the two are related. In fact, I think that’s why I like her so much. Her artwork focused on female genitals was an effort to show women that their genitals were different, that that was okay, and that they should embrace them. She also held workshops where women visually explored and pleasured their vaginas. What she was getting across was that alienation from one’s vagina impeded sexual agency and sexual pleasure. She taught familiarity, but also sexual agency and body liberation. She believed you had to know how to love your body in order to have good partner sex.
Many people are still dissatisfied with their genitals, but general body dissatisfaction also has much to do with sexual agency. If you don’t like you’re body, or even parts of it, you’re probably less inclined to share it with other people…maybe even less likely to take pleasure in it. Being inhibited about your body or alienated from it can prevent you from having mindless, explosive sex, trying new things, or even asserting yourself sexually.
If you have issues with your body that stand in your way of sexual pleasure, there are many ways to work on it. First of all, be easy on yourself. Loving your body and exploring your sexuality are both involved processes. These things tend to evolve gradually.
Has body shame ever inhibited your sex life? If so, what did you do?
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