If you have a look that’s deemed outside the norm by mainstream culture — whether you’re a dwarf, an amputee, someone overweight, someone Asian — chances are, someone has a fetish for you. Yet while none of us would tell an Asian girl going through a dry spell to seek out the attentions of a self-proclaimed Asian fetishist, many of us seem to think that that’s a surefire path to romantic success for, say, an amputee, or someone with a disability (as evidenced by last week’s Savage Love).
Now let’s get one thing straight: there’s certainly nothing wrong with having a fetish, and there’s definitely nothing wrong with having a preference for the legless (which, as friend of Boinkology Cory Silverberg points out, is more or less akin to having a preference for big boobs or red hair). But there’s a difference between someone who says, “I’m attracted to you, I love you, and I think your prosthetic limb is pretty great” and someone who says, “Wow, prosthetic limb? Let’s fuck!”
We all want to be loved, appreciated, and, yes, fucked because of who we are as whole people — not just for our big boobs, or blonde hair, or third nipple. While a BBW (or amputee, or dwarf) fetish site may initially be a boost of confidence to a BBW (or amputee, or dwarf) with low self esteem, at the end of the day, we all want to be loved regardless of — not because of — our little quirks.
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