Life blogging has been around for the better part of a decade (or more, depending on how you’re counting) — and by extension, so has sex life blogging. And as the medium has evolved and changed, as it’s morphed and mutated and mainstreamed, it’s effected countless lives, for better and for worse. Relationships have been strengthened, relationships have been destroyed; communities have been built and lives have been turned upside down. And through it all, one has to wonder: why do we sex blog?
One could, of course, just as easily ask why anyone blogs about their personal life, period. But since sex is such a loaded and taboo topic, it adds an extra layer of complication. And so we present a (by no means complete) list of reasons why we sex blog.
For visibility. For those who belong to a sexual subculture — queer, kinky, poly, or otherwise — sex blogging is a very immediate way of raising awareness about their lifestyle (we’re here, we’re fucking, get used to it). On the other side of the coin, blogs about stigmatized sexual identities can offer solace, a sense of connection, and a bit of stimulation to others with the same identity (particularly those who may not know anyone else who’s into the same things as they are).
For connection. Blogging has always helped people connect with similarly minded individuals: sex blogging is no different (as evidenced by the blogrolls of sex blogs, Sugasm, and the many offline gatherings of those who details their sex lives online.).
For titillation. Exhibitionism comes in many forms, and, yes, sex blogging is one of them. Publicly discussing the details of your sex life can be a distinct thrill, as can the knowledge that others are reading about (and getting off to) the details of your exploits.
Because it’s just so beautiful. Sex is a wonderful, beautiful thing: why shouldn’t we put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) and try to tell the world about it? Writers have built careers on their professions of love. Why should sex be any different?
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For us, a small just for fun blog, we blog to share cool shit with each other and our friends. The two of us authors are pretty reluctant to share our personal sex lives too much. We go back and forth on the issue a lot since some of our favorite bloggers are the ones who share a lot (Slut Machine on Jezebel comes to mind).
June 17th, 2008 at 9:43 amI’ve been writing about sexuality and relationships in newsgroups and web forums for a decade. I started blogging a couple of years ago when I realized how many people were like me - not hard-core BDSM, but assuredly beyond the vanilla, and in a relationship with someone who doesn’t understand my desires. It took my wife and I years to get to the point where the both of us could have a conversation about it; now that we’re more comfortable with each other I’ve been discussing some of our issues online in hopes of helping other people with similar issues.
That, and I’ve got a huge ego to be stroked
Seriously, I get emails from people, mostly but not exclusively men, looking for tips and tricks and resources to help their wives be more receptive to their kinks. Unfortunately, there’s nothing that will magically change somebody else - all I can tell them is that they have to learn to be more comfortable (and perhaps less demanding) about expressing their desires and making their partners feel more secure about their relationship in general.
June 20th, 2008 at 9:08 pmI think the more sex blogging there is, the more others come to realize that everyone is a sexual being and that sex, in all of its forms, is a perfectly natural and normal part of being human. As I see it, it helps assuage this silly fear of sexuality that we have in this country.
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