As you’re probably aware, June is Gay Pride Month. To show our gay pride, we’re having Gay Week over at Boinkology: from Monday to Friday, it’s all gay posts, all the gay time.
What makes a gay divorce different from a straight divorce?
Well, if you believe Rachael Kelsey, Scotland’s leading expert on gay divorce, same-sex splits are more likely to be amicable, with gay couples less likely to argue over trivial details.
Are gays more even tempered? More rational? Not exactly:
Gay couples might often both be working, they might be professionals, they are likely to bring the same things to a relationship. And when they split up, you are less likely to have one side feeling that they have given up a lot for the other partner.
Hey, is this another thing straight couples can learn from their gay counterparts?
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Probably being generally more open minded about “cheating” helps too.
June 23rd, 2008 at 9:20 pmi’ve always had a feeling the gays will revolutionize marriage. they will do a better job at it than us breeders.
June 24th, 2008 at 11:22 pm“cheating” is cheating, no matter what your orientation is. “Cheating” is breaking an implicit or explicit rule. If they have an agreement to allow certain forms of sexual infidelity, they are not “cheating”, by definition. And not all gay people have the same relationship agreements.
The biggest contributing factor is that they are required to make their own relationship agreements from scratch, so gay people belong to a group of people who has, by necessesity, had to re-write the rules for how their relationships go.
And, with no legal recourse to give each other 50% ownership of the other’s property, they have no choice but to split up “easier”. There are no divorce proceedings, no custody battles, no legal contracts to dissolve because they weren’t allowed those in the first place. The person whose name is on the mortgage gets the home. The person who is biologically related to the kid gets the kid. Period.
But, as I said, they, as a group, have had to redefine what a “relationship” is, and therefore are more likely to have amicable splits because they are not automatically subject to the same myths that het monogamous people are - that you must work and work and work on a marriage until the absolute last straw has broken the camel’s back and now you want to kill each other. In a relationship that does not have “til death do we part”, backed by government interference, a relationship might be allowed to end simply when it’s no longer working but the people involved are still amicable, rather than waiting until the participants hate each other.
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