As you’re probably aware, June is Gay Pride Month. To show our gay pride, we’re having Gay Week over at Boinkology: from Monday to Friday, it’s all gay posts, all the gay time.
Human sexual preferences come in a wide variety of flavors — but more often than not, the main stream medium only sees two types: gay and straight. If you’re a bisexual person in a same-sex relationship, you’re automatically gay, as evidenced by the “gaywashing” documented by Bidar in this Reuters piece.
Saddened as we are by this, we can’t say we’re too surprised. After all, the mainstream media has never really displayed much ability to understand nuanced identities of any kind, whether it’s about race, sex, religion, or sexual orientation. If they tried to comprehend that a woman marrying a woman can still be attracted to men — well, their heads might very well explode!
[Via Naked City]
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Should anyone be suprised? Society takes many cues from the media. If we are constantly told homo, hetero, or bust how is across-the-board acceptance of all forms of sexuality supposed to be embraced by the masses, or even the minorities?
I identify as pansexual. (Attracted to a person as a whole over plumbing; reguardless of pole, hole, or any re-wirings; gotta have personality, baby!) I’ve felt plenty of pressure to finally decide straight or gay. Where I live you’re expected to be hetero, if you aren’t you’re automatically gay, which is accepted but only if you’re talking to the right people; bi is reserved for petty high-school emo-experimentations. Since I adore breasts, but am more compatible with most male personalities I’m often told that I’m an in-the-closet lesbian, or an immature girl that’s a cheating risk on her boyfriend. I’ve had a boyfriend and a girlfriend leave because they couldn’t handle the pressure and induced shame of having a girlfriend after a string of nothing but boyfriends; having previously decreed themselves gay and straight; the social push is that high in most circles. Neither could get past the society stigma of being either straight or gay, no grey area, because everyone knows bi and pan are imaginary orientations. (Would that explain why my boyfriend calls me a dreamer? Nah. He’s cool, this one.)
Is it really so hard to accept people as who they are, without needlessly worrying or meddling in the ins and outs of who goes home with who at night and why they choose one gender over others? Since when does someone who adores breasts have to automatically have a girlfriend? Why can’t a man who does appreciate relationships with men have a girlfriend without being condemned for “Hiding who he really is and denying his gayness”? Admiration of glorious body parts, or wonderful people, does not necessarily decree orientation! (It may, however, chase off sleezy old men at bars.)
June 24th, 2008 at 11:34 pmLeave a reply :