Maybe you like the way they dress, their accent, the way they carry themselves, or maybe it’s just because they play drums in a band. One thing is for sure though, meeting a new potential love interest is always exciting because you know hardly anything about them. But with that excitement also brings potential problems.
It’s always important to remember that your love interest’s life doesn’t start just because you showed up. You really have no idea if the person you like just broke up with a long term boyfriend or girlfriend or started dating someone around the same time they began dating you. Sure it’s certainly alright to ask what’s up, but not right away or else you might seem far too interested, controlling or that you’re just low on self-esteem. The key to any great relationship is communication but there’s a very fine line between finding out more about someone and seeming a little bit like a psycho.
If things seem to be a little off in the first couple weeks of dating it may not be you at all, it may be something else. If you can try to relax and just focus on the positive without prying into their lives too much you just might get through it. However if you can’t and you really wonder or think something might be up you should speak up and say something.
How do you know when to say something? Before you decide to ask about what’s happening elsewhere in their romantic life you need to first ask yourself some questions.
These are hard questions to answer in any circumstance and they’re often just as difficult for the other person to answer. You must also be prepared to hear what they have to say in return. You may hear that they are still dating someone else, or several other people. You’re relationship may not be as exclusive as you think it is and that may hurt to hear.
If wondering what’s going on is making you unhappy and preventing you from having a good time with someone you should probably ask them what’s up. If not try and hold off as long as possible because sometimes it’s best to not say anything.