SUBMITTED BY GARRETT: A good friend of mine and I have a running contest. We try to out-do each other in finding the most bizarre and specific sexual fetishes. This has lead from Adult Diapering (grown-ups done up as babies) to Macrophelia (People who find giants appealing) to Hepto-Macrophelia (People who want to have sex with Godzilla) and beyond.
Fetish is generally kind of funny when observed from an objective point of view. Even participants in these activities will usually acknowledge the silliness of it, but as long as all the participants are of age, willing and being safe what is the harm in riding your lover with a saddle or rubbing yourself down with silk to get off?
This is not to say that Fetishes can’t be creepy as well. Take for instance this youtube channel of “miniskirtkiller,” who describes the channel quite accurately as the following.
This channel showcases my three favorite fetishes - nicely dressed women in short skirts and business suits, and women clad in said attire who smoke and/or meet a fantasy death.
There are dozens of clips, some only seconds long, of just that.
He adds:
Remember, this is harmless, erotic fun. I do not advocate violence against anyone, least of all women. I’m just a regular guy with a few dark fantasies.
Which is more than likely true. Thoug naming yourself “miniskirtkiller” might not make you sound harmless. And the fact that this 19 year old has over a 1000 subscribers is pretty curious. How many share his fetishes, and how many are just gawking at another weird YouTube channel?
Does this fetish “cross the line”? That’s very hard to say. Being positive about sexuality, open and accepting of behavior rather than judgmental puts you in an odd position. If I say “Eww…that’s gross” am I just as bad as the lunkhead who sneers are a gay couple? And is that comparison itself offensive? In trying to embrace the wonderful kinky rainbow do we open ourselves up to an endless moral minefield?
Or can we just agree that some fetishes are just creepy?
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People have kinks of all kinds—as long as it’s between consenting adults, who cares? If you’re not interested, don’t check into it. Easy peasy.
July 11th, 2008 at 3:45 pmnone of the fetishes you mention seem bizarre to me, but maybe i read too much! i still think conjoined furry fetish is the most bizarre i’ve seen, but it’s not even that bizarre if you think about it, since furryism and conjoined twin fetishes don’t seem bizarre on their own.
that said, it isn’t very comfortable when people fetishize other -people- a la conjoined twins. that is creepy to me. also the hairless skinny blonde fetish kind of baffles me.
July 11th, 2008 at 6:29 pmI don’t find this one all that startling to come across with the longstanding underground market for snuff films. Maybe not always the safest fetish but if he’s being honest he is dealing with it relatively logically and addressing the whole issue that consent is necessary and that it is acting/fantasy not reality.
The fetishes that are too “extreme” for me can frequently be found on places like BME but the ones that I’m thinking of involve permanent or significant damage to the body. I did always find the saline infusion one a bit of an (amusing) odd hat though. Someone sat down and though “hey… I can hook and IV up to my testicles and fill them with warm salty water!” and created a new activity for fetish parties.
July 11th, 2008 at 7:04 pmoh yeah, saline infusion definitely gets its ‘Innovative” merit badge! it’s not quite a medical fetish because it’s not something they do ever for any reason -other- than fetish. or am i wrong? ::realizes there might be medical procedures she is unaware of::
July 11th, 2008 at 8:15 pmIf Hepto-Macrophelia is wanting to fuck Godzilla, is Mecha-Hepto-Macrophelia wanting to fuck Mecha-Godzilla? Cause I might have that fetish. Maybe.
July 11th, 2008 at 8:52 pmMake it Furry-Mecha-Hepto-Macrophelia and we could start our own cozy lil club Xorn.
July 11th, 2008 at 9:20 pmI think maybe the better way to look at it isn’t, Is a fetish creepy or not, but whether it’s healthy or not. Or at least not seriously unhealthy.
A couple of months ago there was a discussion on here about a documentary on Real Doll fetishists. At the time, I remember thinking, well, on the one hand, to each his own, but on the other if it was my best friend or brother engaging in a romantic relationship with an inanimate object, I’d be seriously concerned for their mental well-being. Maybe that’s judgmental, I don’t know, but at root that’s what I think the line is: are you concerned for the person because they practice the fetish (or for others who may be affected by it). Like if someone’s a Furry that’s kinda cute; if they’re into 9 year-olds, that’s a serious problem. So I think it’s a gut thing about safety and health.
As to miniskirtkiller, you’d have to know what else is going on his life to really make an assessment. As someone said above, if he’s posting this fetish and giving it an outlet, that’s probably a good thing. Probably. But does he have other outlets and relationships in his life? Or is he working 20-hours a day on his death video collection?
In general, I think the death-sex fetishes are ones that would benefit from more open discussion. Even though most people would argue that it’s twisted at first blush, there are some natural connections. I mean if I had a near death experience, one of the first things I want to do is make love to someone. What better way to feel alive, to celebrate what almost got taken away from you, than a good fuck? And there are probably a lot of other permutations to the death-sex connection that don’t get looked into because people don’t want to cop to death-related fetishes out of fear of being branded as some form of serial-killer-deviant-what-have-you.
As to your question about whether you’re as bad as the anti-gay lunkhead, I don’t know. I really don’t think so, but it gets into the dicey area of what’s a fetish and what’s an “orientation” for lack of a better term. I guess I would start from the standpoint that sexuality is something that’s biologically based (which I believe) whereas fetishes are primarily psychological — ingrained maybe at a very, very early age, but still the result of outside stimuli interacting with our psyche. Of course the tricky implication of that view is that then maybe fetishes can be “cured” through therapy or whatever. I understand why a lot of people would take offense at that notion and some in the BDSM community will argue strongly that their “fetishes” are every bit as organic as vanilla homosexuality or heterosexuality.
I think I remember reading a Susie Bright article back in the 90s about the riff between the BDSM community and some elements of the SF gay community over this idea. If there are gay rights, why not rights for BDSM practitioners, was sort of the question and it got very ugly in terms of one side saying, “You’re a fetish, we’re a sexuality,” or words to that effect (I’m paraphrasing from memory).
But either way, lay off the people who want to fuck Mecha=Godzilla, because we’ve been ridiculed enough, OK?
July 11th, 2008 at 9:22 pmISIL: you are the wind beneath my wings.
July 11th, 2008 at 9:27 pmif we question the ability to judge people who have lots of tattoos, or who enjoy having lots of butt sex, (something i got scolded for a while ago, although i was only hating on kat von d) or the disgust of mini-me’s sex tape, why can we judge someone who is into this sort of thing? aren’t we supposed to be happy that this person has a safe, healthy way to get off without feeling ashamed or awkward about it?
i don’t personally think there’s anything wrong with questioning it, but i guess i do believe there is a bit of hypocrisy in even calling it “creepy”. am i saying that questioning it makes you as bad as someone who looks down on homosexuals? not directly. however, i often stop myself before replying to a lot of articles on this website because i know people will make comments about how i’m an asshole because i’m too judgmental. so i guess my reason for replying right now is.. where does boinkology stand? are they open to the idea of very vanilla sexuality being respected? i see all kinds of support on here for strippers (something i disagree with), prostitutes (something i disagree with), and sex bloggers… but does your desire for openness of sexuality only stretch to the brim of the grey area? either support sexual freedom in all it’s guises or don’t, you know?
July 12th, 2008 at 10:27 amI really believe there is a difference between “weird sexual fantasy” and being a sociopath. Even if someone claims that they are not advocating violence they are and they have violent urges because thats what murderers do they GET OFF on killing people.
July 18th, 2008 at 8:27 am@DIANA: our current president, as well as many other powerful men and women in the united states government could be classified as sociopaths. sociopaths are not murderers, they are anti-social people who may, at some point in their lifetime, disregard the well-being of others for their own enjoyment. however, that’s not limited to sex and that doesn’t say that they always have violent tendencies. not even psychopaths are pigeonhole to simply getting off on killing someone. but regardless… even if i tell you the grass is blue, you know better, right? if someone with sociopathic traits scares you, avoid them. some people GET OFF on being taken advantage of and having no control. it isn’t wrong, it isn’t right, it just is. if you take those blinders off, you can still see the world in your own discriminating light.. but at least you can see it all. just some friendly advice.
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