July 14, 2008
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The Case Of Facials Vs. Butt Sex

SUBMITTED BY XORN SMITH: I’m always leery of picking on other people’s kinks, especially as I have so many myself. So rather than say I’m taking any kind of stand, let me just say I’m looking for some clarification. What’s the deal with facials?

This question has been rattling around my brain for a while but came to the fore recently when an old friend of mine emailed me a YouPorn video and asked if it was a woman with whom we’d gone to high school.

(Like most people, he frequently checks amateur videos for people he knows and emails me about once a month for corroboration. It never turns out to be anyone we know, but it’s usually decent porn nonetheless. Really, he’s very well-adjusted otherwise.)

So there I am watching an amateur clip on crappy old YouPorn of someone who kinda looks like she might have once been the hottest girl in our sophomore gym class, when I see a link to another video featuring a woman who looks a bit like Meadow Soprano. Having always been disappointed that Jamie-Lynn Sigler never got a nude scene in The Sopranos, I naturally click on the video in the hopes of vicarious thrills with her porn doppelganger.

And it’s facial porn.

I think of facial porn as a lot like cigars. About every two years I try it because everyone else is doing it, but then I quickly remember why I don’t really like it in the first place. In the case of cigars it’s because they make me mildly nauseous. With facial porn, it’s because I just don’t understand it. Why come on her face if there’s a perfectly warm, wet, inviting mouth right there? More importantly, why is the woman in the facial porn invariably smiling? That’s the part that really doesn’t make any sense to me. Why is Faux Meadow Soprano grinning like a marshmallow addict with a basketful of Peeps on Easter morning as Mr. Unseen From the Waste Up is about to explode on her face?

I mean semen’s hard enough to get out of belly hair, let alone eye lashes. If someone was about to ejaculate on my face I’d be thinking — well I’d be thinking a hell of a lot of things — but amongst them would be highly practical concerns like “Fuck, can I get pink eye like this?” or “Does Visine make a special formula for ejaculate or should I just try the Extra Dry Eyes kind when this is over?”

But I wouldn’t be smiling. Grimacing and almost certainly blinking. But not smiling.

As I said, I know I shouldn’t judge the fetishes of others (not that that’s stopping me here, of course) especially as I have several of my own, prime among them being a love of butt sex. And I realize there are people out there who ask, “Why fuck her ass when there’s a perfectly wet, warm, and inviting vagina right there?” And to those people I say…well I don’t say anything because they obviously lack imagination.

But sticking on topic, I realize that butt sex may not be everyone’s bag and I’m well aware that in certain quarters it has a bad rap as being selfish, misogynist, aberrant, and a bunch of other nasty labels. And in truth, enjoying butt sex does raise some interesting questions about the psyches of those who enjoy it from either end (or both).

The first time I had butt sex the hottest moment wasn’t during the actual act, it was about a half hour later when we were dressed and sitting down at her kitchen table. As her butt hit hardwood chair, she bit her lip and then smiled a little. “That’s gonna sting for a while,” she said as I spontaneously orgasmed on the spot.

Up until that moment, I’d tried to convince myself that my interest in anal wasn’t about pain or domination, just about…I don’t know, my love of asses, maybe, or the fact that anal seemed fashionably taboo. But the reality was that element of domination and, yes, even of pain was also a big part of the turn on.

It genuinely excited me, to be honest, that I’d fucked her ass so hard it was sore. And, it really, really turned me on that she made a point of saying it hurt in front of me. Yes, she could have been exaggerating — we’d used ample lube — but even if she was faking for my benefit, it was arousing in itself that she was trying to jerk off my ego like that.

All of which is my way of saying I’m not averse to or above the notion that humiliation or domination can be the essence of a sexual turn on.

But to be fair, with anal, I never felt that I was humiliating my partner — in fact part of the thrill was from her willingness and even eagerness to be fucked in the ass. The “gonna sting” comment was exhilarating because it was said with a smile and maybe a bit of pride on her part; if instead there had been a tear with it, I would have felt very differently.
And along those lines, probably lies my answer as to why the woman is always smiling in facial porn. Most of us don’t want to cop to being turned on by dominating or humiliating another. If there’s pleasure involved for her, we feel less creepy.

But here’s the rub: there are number of people out there who are willing to label heterosexual men who enjoy butt sex as selfish or misogynist. Yet, I know from ample anecdotal evidence and the work of esteemed sex writers like Em and Lo and Tristan Taormino that butt sex can be enjoyable for women, both psychologically and physically. Moreover, butt sex requires trust and communication, maybe even more than straight fucking.

On the other hand, facials require…jerking off and a target. Even the physicality of the two actions speaks volumes: with facials the partners disjoin and physically separate for the climax while with anal you’re about as intimately conjoined as you can get.

So why don’t facial purveyors and fetishists get the same bad rap as anal enthusiasts?

And am I the only one who actually thinks facial porn is becoming more prominent? Sure it’s seemingly been around since the dawn of the Internet, but now it seems to be everywhere and not just with Japanese girls either. (And if you’re thinking of starting your own facial porn site, there’s your tag line — “Now not just with Japanese girls!!”)

So fellow students of Boinkology, am I just indiscriminately lauding one kink while trashing another? Is there a positive upside to facials that I’ve somehow missed? Or is it the case that facials and butt sex are both in the same sticky boat?

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  • Marissa says :

    I’ve been reading Boinkology for awhile now but have yet to leave a comment. This post compelled me to speak up.

    Honestly, just a few years ago I didn’t even know people did this whole facial thing. I had no idea what it was even. I was as confused as you to why anyone would want to do this. So I tried it. I wanted to have the experience and come to find out, I actually kind of like it. Here’s how I see it…

    Purely physically speaking, facial skin is very sensitive. Ever sigh when you put a warm washcloth on your face? Dunk your head under water in a hottub? It feels good. Warm, wet, slippery stuff on your face is somehow pleasurable.

    Psycologically, there are a whole host of things happening. The smiles come from the ludicrous nature of what your about to do(or currently doing). Let’s face it…sex acts can be rather comical! Have you ever tried the jackhammer position? I had a boyfriend try this and I can’t do it without hysterically laughing. Facials are funny…hence the smiling.

    I’ve heard guys say they love it when a woman orgasms and most especially when it’s because of them. Women are no different. We like it when a guy gets off because of us. Having the evidence of your hotness all over your face, or body is a validation of sorts. “Yep, I must be pretty hot because he couldn’t control himself.” People identify you by your face so a facial is a very personal statement. He’s getting off to me, not to some faceless body.

    And then there’s just the kink factor…let’s try something totally off the wall. Regular cookies and milk sex can get boring.

    I’m not going to deny that for some men this is a degredation kind of thing. But there’s a lot more going on for most people I think.

  • Xorn Smith says :

    MARISSA: Thanks for a thoughtful (and kinda hot) response. You’ve honestly given me newfound respect for (or at least insight into) facials. I hope you post here more.

  • al oof says :

    i don’t have much to say about the enjoyment. i don’t like facials or receiving anal sex (it bothers me that as a straight woman, i have to specify, but when straight men say ‘i like anal sex’ we assume they mean giving it. because i do like anal sex. you know?) um, anyway, it does seem like the facial is becoming more common in porn, but i think part of that is that it has a name now, and a following. i don’t think it wasn’t happening before, it just wasn’t seen as this specific thing that you specifically were into. does that make sense?

    vs. anal sex, which is much more pervasive in porn these days then it once was, though i think this has more to do with taboo than anything. that said, because i’m sensitive to things that turn me off, once anal sex or facials enter a porn i’m watching, i lose my erection*.

    *a metaphor, sort of.

  • Mike says :

    I don’t get it, either. Ah, well…different strokes, and pokes, for different folks?

  • Jeremy says :

    I can explain my interest in it, I suppose.

    Now, let me preface this by saying that I’m not into the cock-against-the-cheek slapping, the choking, the “that’s right, bitch” that goes along with so much of the facial focused fellatio I see on the interwebs.

    In fact, for the most part, I think the men in porn should be removed with some kind of green screen or something.

    Anyway.

    It’s about mess for me.

    I’m a very tidy person. I hate getting my hands dirty, I dislike gardening, I eat candy bars with utentils when available. That said, sex is where I throw all of that insanity out the window. Coming on a girl’s face isn’t to much interesting, it’s the sort of half in, half out cum deployment that comes with a really messy blowjob. I’m also fascinated with female ejaculation for the same reason. I’d kill to be completely doused in some kind of delicious deluge. I love the feeling of having a girl’s wetness dripping off the end of my chin or running down my neck.

    Anyway, it’s the same thing. How I enjoy looking down to see strands of spit and come attaching a girl’s mouth to my penis. My come running off of HER chin.

    I hope this sheds maybe *some* light on someone’s interest in the topic.

    I’m telling you, graphic design does WEIRD things to one’s sexual cravings.

  • JJJ says :

    I can’t speak to the appeal of engaging in facials in real-life sex, but the appeal in porn terms seems pretty obvious. The facial neatly encapsulates the power dynamic found in most pornography made for straight men: the woman is wholly subservient to the pleasure of the man, to the point where she allows her face to be covered in the sticky, messy evidence of it–and “enjoys” it, hence the smiling you sometimes see. This all plays into the idea that the woman is an insatiable slut. And of course it’s very visual.

  • Isil says :

    I know a couple of girls who enjoy and climax jointly when “facialized”, ie some do the jerking AND the targeting AND the receiving. Yay multitasking generation.

    Still..

    Both anal and facials share the kinkfactor but most importantly the risk of being lived as degrading (promoted by porn industry if you will) but also, interetingly enough, the utter enjoyment of being able to surpass same inhibitions and achieve new horizonts together. (insert ST:TNG theme and some “Furry-Mecha-DATA-Facial-Buttplug-cozy-club sign”)

    To me a really equal, simetrical relationship involves being able to do all sort of things without “pulling rank” over the significant other. Be it facials or having her strap on a toy and ride you or whatever. The more secure you are about yourself and your partner/relationship, the easier.

    PS: Marissa should totally stick around.

  • Benjie says :

    I have to say, reading the feedback has been entertaining, if not comical. Why are people worrying their horny little brains with this? If it is consensual, do it. We should be less interested in clinging to some bygone, ill informed, moral ghost, and appreciate getting it on.

  • al says :

    benjie, i don’t think we’re worrying about consensual adults giving eachothers facials. we’re talking about porn and why the facial has become so much more prevalent in it. which means discussing the reason it’s marketable, which means wondering what is appealing about it. i don’t want a facial in every porn. i don’t want it to become a non-fetish like anal sex, where it doesn’t mention that it’s going to happen on the box.

  • al says :

    benjie, i don’t think we’re worrying about consensual adults giving eachothers facials. we’re talking about porn and why the facial has become so much more prevalent in it. which means discussing the reason it’s marketable, which means wondering what is appealing about it. i don’t want a facial in every porn. i don’t want it to become a non-fetish like anal sex, where it doesn’t mention that it’s going to happen on the box.

  • Alexa says :

    People identify you by your face so a facial is a very personal statement. He’s getting off to me, not to some faceless body.

    That’s an excellent way to characterize it. As Marissa suggests, the psychology behind why some women enjoy facials is a bit more robust than a lot of people understand. Many of us don’t find it “degrading” at all in a negative sort of way. Some of us do enjoy (and get off on) the “humiliation” (and that’s not even the right word for it, actually. More of a “submission” kind of thing, really) aspect of being cum on.

  • Diana says :

    It’s not degrading if you are doing it with someone who you really care about someone you want to pleasure. Everything has a proper context. It feels good and its safer than swallowing.

  • brookebomber says :

    to me, it’s 100% about being degraded. if a guy cums on me anywhere except my mouth (because he isn’t cumming in my girl parts because i don’t want a baby and i don’t do birth control), it’s his way of saying.. you are a slut and i’ll cum wherever i want and i don’t give a fuck if you like it or not. that being said, most women like it. that is because most women want to be dominated in some way, and they don’t have to admit it to make it a fact. but, i guess i’m just a humiliation type, and most of us who like getting humiliated also secretly don’t think there’s anything humiliating about being humiliated (yeah i overused the shit out of that word, do something about it). i want a dude to fuck me like a porn star. i want to be treated like a slut and like i’m disposable, because, from what i’ve experienced, the guys i’ve been with will never make me disposable if i get off on this sort of behavior.

    but, maybe that’s just me…

  • al says :

    “that being said, most women like it. that is because most women want to be dominated in some way, and they don’t have to admit it to make it a fact.”

    You don’t have to universalize your experience in order to legitimize it. it’s acceptable and wonderful that you enjoy what you enjoy, but commenting on what ‘most women’ want isn’t helping anyone. we can all speak for ourselves, thanks!

  • ell says :

    Perhaps the facial can be seen as the ultimate acceptance of a man? I used to think in porn it was all kind of a little dumb but after spending a good deal of time in the company of reasonable fellows who just love the idea and look of semen on a happy woman’s face it doesn’t seem so nefarious or sinister.

  • brookebomber says :

    @AL: maybe you aren’t part of that group. if you research the psychology behind sexual roles, you’d understand that we (as women) are programmed, much like animals, to desire something equivalent to a “pack leader”. this doesn’t just mean someone who can take care of us, but someone who can control us. it’s not a sweeping generalization, it’s just something that basically everyone who has ever researched the topic has agreed upon. while the degree of domination varies, and while i did mention that MOST (not all) women are into it, i think i was able to make my point without intruding upon yours (or anyone elses).

  • al oof says :

    you know, i don’t think there is anything weird with getting come on your face, or getting yours on someone else’s face. what’s interesting to me is specifically wanting this. i mean, for me, just to be clear, the reason i don’t want someone come on my face is that i find it icky. not degrading, i just don’t like the warm stickiness of it. but i can totally understand someone liking the warm stickiness of it.

    so for me, i can understand wanting come on your face more than i understand wanting to come on someone else’s face. It just seems strangely specific.

  • al oof says :

    that last post was in response to ELL, i get subscriptions so i didn’t see brookebomber’s comment. sorry to double comment.

    brooke: while i do not agree with your assessment of women’s desire’s as a whole, what i was really taking issue with is your comment “and they don’t have to admit it for it to be a fact.” not for nothing, but i don’t trust the ‘people who have researched this’ and i distrust a lot of psychological research into ‘gender roles’ in general, because it has just never been my lived experience. and sorry if i don’t believe that i’m a unique butterfly amongst my peers.

    the thing is, they do kind of have to admit it for it to be a fact. if most women want to be dominated, so be it, but to suggest that even women who say they don’t want to be dominated want to be dominated is poor science at best.

    i’d bet that a whole lot of women who want to be dominated also, often, don’t. it’s not like people are the same all the time.

  • Ruth @ The Explorers Blog says :

    The “You don’t know what you’re thinking, but I do!” approach has never made much sense to me. It’s such a weak form of debate, relying on one person’s mysterious, ungrounded knowledge plus a less than subtle silencing of any other perspective. While some theories of human development do back up the submissive-woman concept, many others don’t. In the end, they’re all just theories, all with a lot of data behind them. I’ve also studied this a lot, and in the end I go back to my own experiences to make my best guess.

    In my house, I hold the leash instead of wearing it.
    He and I both like it that way.

    Back to more fun:
    Is there a positive side to facials?
    I don’t get many of them anymore, as my partner doesn’t like them. I can say, however, that the smell does something for me. Scents can go a long way toward turning me on, starting with the smell of his arousal before the clothes are even off. Later, it’s the salty, earthy scent of his sweat and musk combined with mine. Let your imagination wander, you know where I’m heading with this. Like Marissa, I feel that the warmth and texture can also be pleasant. Facials aren’t my #1 by a long shot, but sometimes I’m in the mood for them. Even after a shower I get a smile out of knowing that when people look at me they’re seeing a face that was recently doing something very naughty.

    I wonder if facial porn is easier for a solo male watcher to fantasize themselves into. They are also not connected to a partner, and possibly engaged in similar actions to the mysterious man on the screen. They’re getting good cues and can readily play along. Guys, does it work that way?

    Xorn asked if they are both in the same boat? I want to make a Love Boat joke so badly, but I can’t quite make one work. Anyone?

  • Alexa says :

    if you research the psychology behind sexual roles, you’d understand that we (as women) are programmed, much like animals, to desire something equivalent to a “pack leader”. this doesn’t just mean someone who can take care of us, but someone who can control us. it’s not a sweeping generalization, it’s just something that basically everyone who has ever researched the topic has agreed upon.

    I’m not sure where you’ve been doing your “research” but the statement that “it’s just something that basically everyone who has ever researched the topic has agreed upon” is a load of garbage. Hardly everyone “agrees” on anything, especially with respect to this subject. Your statement is indeed a “sweeping generalization.” As Ruth suggsted, there are plenty of theories (and they are all just theories) that suggest otherwise.

    You need to get out more.

    In the end, though, it doesn’t matter. Some women enjoy facials, some don’t. In terms of anything on a societal level, the “theories” behind why that is the case are wholly irrelevant to anyone other than academics. I don’t care why you or anyone else do or do not enjoy them. I do, and in my world, that is all that matters.

  • brookebomber says :

    @ALEXA & EVERYONE WHO IS MAD AT ME: i’m confused how i’m wrong, because as all of you are saying your experiences, and i am simply sharing mine also. maybe you aren’t part of the group that i’m making a “sweeping generalization” about, and that’s fine. maybe not EVERYONE agrees that what i said was true, but people do somewhere. so, in my mind (just like in your “world”)… i’m still right.

    i get out a lot, actually, and i don’t see how making personal blows at someone is okay, but me generalizing women to be in need of someone to dominate them is just me being some sort of know-it-all-asshole. i understand everyone’s desire to be themselves and think that they are soooo different, but maybe i just believe that there’s an explanation behind everything and that people really aren’t so different. there’s no need to toss me under the bus and treat me like a dick because of my opinion. if you want to express yours, you can easily do so by replying to this just like i did, you don’t have to pick fights to get people to respect your opinion.

    this is exactly why i stopped replying to things on this website. instead of just overlooking someone’s strong opinion, which might be different than yours, people on here just start being mean. i hardly get any mental stimulation from petty arguments. how about instead of being so hateful and mean to people we disagree with, and trying to convince them that they are wrong somehow, why don’t you just respect that everyone is different – as you guys all say – and we all have our own theories and we are allowed to because we are humans with brains and it’s a wonderful thing, not something to be ashamed of or mad about or any of that shit.

  • Marissa says :

    Thanks Xorn! I’m glad I could open your eyes a bit…just don’t open them if you’re getting a facial…lol.

    Isil – I think I will stick around…thanks for the encouragment.

    Alexa- I’m glad you agree.

    BrookeBomber – People aren’t mad at you for stating an opinion. They are mad about your opinion being stated as fact, supported by unnamed research and applicable to everyone. If you said “I believe this” or “The research I have read says” or something indicating that you understand this is an opinion then you wouldn’t be getting so much flack. It’s word choice and the attitude of superiority that comes with stating opinion as fact. Your opinions are fine but state them as such.

  • brookebomber says :

    @MARISSA: i’m saying it with conviction because i am convinced. to me, in what i have studied and read and what i know about human nature, it is a fact. i have stated numerous times in my responses that if people don’t consider themselves part of this “group” that i was speaking of, then they don’t have to. it is an opinion, and i think everyone is guilty of believing their own opinions can be facts. i was never claiming everyone on earth was this way, just that most women are. on top of the fact that i believe the degree of domination varies by person, and i suppose i thought everyone just “got” that part of the discussion when i stated it. regardless, almost every time i post on here someone has to take some personal jab at me and act like i’m some dick just because i have a strong opinion. to understand where people are coming from, i went so far as to read Alexa’s blog and – although she is disagreeing with me right now – she states (i think the third or fourth entry) that sex with men is “different” because of the “dominate vs. submissive” roles that take place during penetration. man penetrating woman.. thus becoming the dominate person in the situation. that entry alone backs up my theory to an extent.

    the internet is a strange forum because people take words however they choose to take them. no one can hear the inflection in my tone because i have no tone… i just have letters grouped together to form words and sentences. i can’t tell people how to feel, i can just tell them what i think and hope that they are intelligent enough to not belittle me or anyone else with child-like name calling, and instead tastefully agree to disagree. which is what i’ve done in all of my separate responses.. so i guess i’ll just leave it at that, because i’m going to take Alexa’s advice and go outside and cross my fingers and hope i learn something new about the sexual roles of males and females.

  • Lux Alptraum says :

    Hey kids!

    I’m mostly recovered from my brush with death (which, unfortunately, kept me from peeping in here recently). Things are looking pretty okay (I’m so proud of your civil discourse!), but I just want to remind everyone of the following:

    - Behavior that’s between consenting adults is a-okay — no matter how weird, gross, unappealing, or strange we might find it. Everyone has their turn-ons, beautiful and unique snowflakes, etc etc etc.
    - Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion: even if that opinion is that your sexual behavior is unappealing.
    - However, it’s important to express opinions respectfully and as opinions, not as facts (i.e. “I don’t understand the appeal of [X],” not “Everyone who likes [X] is sick.”).
    - Ummm… that may be it!

    Just remember: we don’t have to agree, but if we can all respect each other I won’t have to go back to the hospital. Yay!

  • Alexa says :

    i went so far as to read Alexa’s blog and – although she is disagreeing with me right now – she states (i think the third or fourth entry) that sex with men is “different” because of the “dominate vs. submissive” roles that take place during penetration. man penetrating woman.. thus becoming the dominate person in the situation. that entry alone backs up my theory to an extent.

    Except that it doesn’t.

    The comparisons I was drawing in that post were purely metaphorical, and certainly not indicative of any belief on my part that it was characteristic of the way all women felt. In fact, I specifically mentioned at the outset of that post that it was written in generalities based upon my personal experiences. Further, I went on to say that sex was a uniquely individualized experience. You know what that means, right? That means that just because you or I feel or experience something one way doesn’t mean that the next person, or next 100,000 people will feel it or experience it the same way.

    Marissa has already explained why most of us have issues with the way you’re framing your assertions, so I’ll not belabor that any further.

  • The case of facials vs. b&hellip says :

    [...] Excellent reading. Here’s a sample: But here’s the rub: there are number of people out there who are willing to label heterosexual men who enjoy butt sex as selfish or misogynist. Yet, I know from ample anecdotal evidence and the work of esteemed sex writers like Em and Lo and Tristan Taormino that butt sex can be enjoyable for women, both psychologically and physically. Moreover, butt sex requires trust and communication, maybe even more than straight fucking. On the other hand, facials require…jerking off and a target. Even the physicality of the two actions speaks volumes: with facials the partners disjoin and physically separate for the climax while with anal you’re about as intimately conjoined as you can get. Topics: Fundamentals | Leave a Comment Name: [...]

  • John says :

    Really fascinating original post and comments.

    As far as facials go: my wife likes them. I asked her why and she says that she likes to give head, but doesn’t really like the taste all the time, so although she’ll suck down all the precum I can produce, when it comes to the moment, she prefers to get blasted on the face, neck or boobs. Sometimes we completely coat her eyeglasses – which is hysterical. It’s actually a lot of fun for both of us, though I personally don’t care where I cum.

  • experienced idiot says :

    Facials are a lie. Women do not like them and if you think that anything in a video is even close to the truth then you are in need of a strong reality check… Men who like them are selfish and incapable of mature masculine behaviour and they obviously do not respect women. It is a marketing ploy only for inmate porn only, just like years ago doctors would recommend smoking or like today where a water bottle sale is termed as good for the environment when it is all bull. America is the most imprisoned nation on the earth and to calm the prisoners before they get to prison the industry will deal with a lot of visuals to promote single unmarried idiots that do not have any REAL notion of women to idolize porn type sex. Facials are visuals and not sensual stimulations.

    Butt-anal sex is the same, a total loss on any real sexual feelings. It concerntrates on the man only and women do not enjoy this stuff… Ask any homosexual male and they will also tell you that it hurts and it doesn’t make for any warm feelings associated with sex. It is also really not realistic or practical since shit has more bacteria etc then anything else in the biology of the world.

    Sex is suppose to be fun and real. Why should anyone come on her face when the cock was already inside her mouth so come in there better yet come inside her vagina or on her body somewhere down below since you have to kiss her with tongue after sex anyway to ensure the passion. The young (between 18 and 25 years old) and the unknowing (most people with any kind of major hangup from religious to immaturity are the main audience) don’t know better so the industry sets the stage of knowledge for them, the wrong knowledge, but it sells more videos than real cum in mouth or real good acting porn. It is cheaper to make since the actors can be of lower talent and it give the male psyche a sense of closure to the sex act.

    Talk to any woman anywhere in any culture and they will tell you that all of it the sex, the foreplay, the afterplay, the relationship is the real sex (from a women’s point of view the real passion). Hello to any men out there with a significant other – take out the garbage, clean up the bathroom, stack the laundry for a couple of weeks and I guarentee that your sex quality with your female partner will go through the roof. The other stuff that you talk about including the regular sex, the one-night stand, the quicky before the party is all the poor quality stuff just like margarine or hamburger. If you do not know the difference you think that you died and went to heaven. The day that you have the good stuff because of extended caring and passion you will know that you were really missing something…..Real steak, caviar and homemade bread – what life is all about!!!

  • Some Dude says :

    I just wanted to chime in here.

    Leaving a facial is a finishing move. It’s a lot like signing your work.

  • Alexa says :

    @experienced idiot, you definitely are experienced at being an idiot. What a load of drivel. I can’t believe you wasted all that time typing that garbage out and posting it.

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