If we thought the whole Jakob And Julia debacle had taught us all a thing or two about dating — or at least breaking up — in public… well, it seems we thought wrong. As evidenced by the latest drama to splash its way across our Tumblr dashboards, people are still breaking up in public — and yes, it’s still ugly.
We’ll spare you (most of) the details of this drama, because we’re really only interested in one part of it — a debate that seems to have arisen between the two parties (okay, Nick Douglas and Melissa Gira) about how one should conduct themselves during this kind of public fall out.
Exhibit A, Nick’s statement:
While I’m disappointed
in the way two women have chosen to portray me (much more Melissa’s account of our sixth breakup than Chaya’s story, as I loved Melissa and we hurt each other deeply) I’ll let them speak for themselves. For my part, I won’t be dealing with this in public. We’ve seen what that can lead to: book deals.
Exhibit B, Melissa’s response to someone commending Nick for keeping out of the drama:
I’d argue it has little to do with character. It’s slinking away from the public eye that got him this attention in the first place when he knows he’s wrong. The problem with his behavior in relationships is the he acted much of it out in public — a sort of a public, his over-reliance on his online life to buoy an ego. And actually, all of us are at fault for that.
So what do you think, kids? Is putting it all out there a noble way of confronting the truth? Or is it (dare we say it?) oversharey?
Beyond that, we’d just like to add (without irony, we swear), that these two are, in part, responsible for the proposed SXSW panel, “Sex Lives of the Microfamous.”
[Photo by bored-now]