When it comes to dating, how picky is too picky? I decided to find out by writing this fake Craigslist personal ad from a woman who had nearly 40 very odd requirements for dating.
Some of the highlights of the list included:
Emails immediately started flooding my inbox and the first ones weren’t very positive:
“Here is what I am looking for. It’s not much. NOT MUCH!!!! Have you seen your own list of requirements??!!”
“your ad id probably why u dont have a boyfriend. y dont u just go buy a robot and program it do what u want or better yet go buy an inflattable boyfriend that way it can never put the toilet paper under. u fucking psycho.”
“Im not sure how specific you are with your criteria for a romantic connection, but i can tell you that I live close to carroll gardens, I do like buffy st. marie, i always put the lid down,love cats, and dont smoke.”
“I’m not sure you can say you’re not asking to much and then have a long list of “musts.” But I didn’t write to criticize you – I know people do that. How moronic. But some of what you wrote sounded good to me. Some of it I don’t fit. I’ll leave it up to you to decide whether they’re deal breakers or not.”
“Hi, my name is Chris and I’m interested, please tell me more about yourself. I liked your post and I have a lot of the qualities your looking for in a man, so get back to me when you get a chance. Do people still wear corduroy pants?”
“I don’t think you’re asking too much at all. In fact I think we’d be a pretty good match. I’ll admit I don’t fit all of your criteria but I appreciate someone that knows what they like and is willing to put themselves out there.”
And to my surprise, some guys even responded to each and every question on the list. In the end more guys wanted to get to know this mystery picky woman than I could have ever thought possible.
So can you be too picky? Well ,of course you can be: too much of anything is usually a bad thing. But just be yourself and everything else will most likely fall into place.