If we believe every college gross out comedy made since the mid-nineties, a woman with a strap-on ranks just below ‘guy with a machete and a hockey mask’ and ‘evil clown’ on the male fear chart. So why is it that so many erotic services ads on Craigslist have ’strap-on play’ prominently offered?
Dan Savage coined the term pegging back in 2001, but the practice and even the porn about it is nothing new. The porn series “Bend Over Boyfriend” was put out by Good Vibrations back in the 90’s, giving instructions on how to properly roger your Roger…or Tom or Alex.
Beyond the simple stimulation of nerves, pegging often gets at something even deeper, gender play. Going from being the penetrator to the penetrated can be a powerful shift for any couple and only adds to the intensity.
Is pegging bound for the mainstream? Perhaps, though men still need to get past some pretty ingrained issues about masculinity and anal play.
As Cary Grant once said “You know, we are all unconsciously holding our anus.”
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I really hate that pegging is always made out to be this big horrifying degrading thing that might happen to men in wacky sex movies. Srsly. Very annoying.
October 15th, 2008 at 4:33 pm[...] - I’m not sure Sex and the City has touched on it, but Boinkology definitely has a point - is pegging going mainstream? [...]
October 15th, 2008 at 4:37 pmI agree with Wendy. Most guys that try taking it up the poop chute actually end up enjoying it. It’s not any more “degrading” for them to do it than it is for women to take it up the a…um, back end.
October 15th, 2008 at 9:30 pmThat particular harness pictured gives the idea of pegging a whole new, painful/scary spin to me. Well, not to me (I think it’s hot), but I imagine it might to some people.
October 15th, 2008 at 10:09 pmI don’t think anal sex has to be a degrading thing for either gender, I have no problem as a guy accepting anal stimulation during sex with women or on my own and I just feel it’s such a tired, antiquated punchline for a knee-jerk laugh from the “meathead” men in the audience. It’s a valid erogenous zone, people, so deal with it.
October 15th, 2008 at 10:23 pm“It’s a valid erogenous zone, people, so deal with it.”
October 16th, 2008 at 6:41 amAbsolutely, Brian. Absolutely.
From the male anus point of view i dont really get the difference between being stimulated/rammed by a strap on or a hand held dildo.
Are we talking about an issue of guys not accepting their full scope of sexuality or of ladies grasping for a scope they arent born with?
October 16th, 2008 at 12:01 pmI’m not willing to take it up the arse. That’s not because it’s unmanly, because my ancestors, the Celts, well, their warriors considered it an insult if you didn’t sleep with them if you were their guest, and our lads were fucking manly as hell. It’s just that I would never enjoy it.
To be fair, I’ve never really liked the idea of putting a girl through that, so I don’t ask to do it and I’ll refuse if they ask.
October 16th, 2008 at 9:18 pmNoble reasons, Angus, but then what if your girl really likes anal and finds that it provides her the best orgasms, bar none? Wouldn’t you then be denying her that specific orgasm? I think it’s fine if someone knows their own limits of what they want, but when we automatically deny our partner, hypothetical or not, what could give them pleasure or make them happy, then we’re enforcing our own limits on another person. Some people don’t like receiving oral so is it right that they can decide they won’t give oral either, even if it’s what their partner really desires?
October 17th, 2008 at 4:04 pmPoint taken.
October 17th, 2008 at 5:42 pmIsil: i don’t understand your post. where was someone saying there’s a difference between strap ons and hand held dildoes?
i hate when people ask things like ‘do you like anal sex’ or ‘have you had anal sex’ or whatever. because i know, i know, they are really asking if i’ve -received- anal sex, just because i’m a girl. until that question can be asked and i -know- they won’t assume my ‘yes’ answers mean i’ve received, well, then straight men receiving will be mainstream. it doesn’t matter how many porns it’s in or how many men enjoy it. when the question comes without gendered assumptions, that will be progress.
one time i made a joke about my boyfriend ‘having a little irish in him’ (because i have irish heritage). the man i was talking to laughed and said something like, ‘you don’t have a penis’ or some junk and i was like, ‘i have hands.’
October 18th, 2008 at 1:01 amAl oof,
Noone, thats why i pointed it out. Dildo or strap on is “technically” almost the same thing (angles, vectors, depth, etc), except on the gender role switching part which lux mentions.
Only peps i know who are into strapon fun galore are bisexuals with bossy, very bossy, ladies heh.
Down here strap ons arent popular at all but transsexuals are working more and more every day curiously enough.
But thats just my limited scope. Made me wonder though, how much of the strapon lures into whose mind and whats actually ingrained.
Didnt mean to enter the old “pennis envy” dilemna, sorry if it sounded liked that.
October 18th, 2008 at 1:55 pmS’funny. I’m a dead on hetero, generally dom guy, but I find pegging intensely erotic. The power dynamics at play, the physical sensation, the visuals even (a good strap-on rig does not look goofy) are fantastically hot to me. But like I said, I’ve never had an inkling towards guys, and most of my friends are GLBTQ so it’s not like I’ve lacked for opportunities. But nerve-endings are nerve-endings and the juxtaposition of sexual roles is endlessly appealing. I can’t recommend the “Bend Over Boyfriend” flicks enough.
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